Creator of the Cybernetic Transposition System.
Here’s a question Stuart Lichtman, inventor of Cybernetic Transposition gets frequently:
QUESTION: I seem to focus only on what I do that doesn’t work. I’m very self-critical. Is there something I should do about this?
Yes, there are some essential things you should do about that.
First, let me pose a question. What if your boss gave you a challenging task and you succeeded admirably? However, in the process, you made a few temporary mistakes. And what if your boss’ response was to chew you out for making those mistakes, completely ignoring the outstanding final result you had achieved?
How would you feel?
Would you be as motivated the next time your boss assigned you a difficult task?
Wouldn’t you try to get out of it?
“Now keep in mind, when you are critical of yourself, your unconscious takes it “personally.”
Most people would. Well, what about your unconscious?
When you are critical of yourself, your unconscious takes it “personally.”
I know that because I realize that every part of your unconscious works ceaselessly to give you what it thinks is best for you, what will make you happy. However, if you focus only on the aspects of your unconscious that are out of touch with what you currently want, ignoring all of the successful ones, what do you think happens?
It’s simple: Your unconscious doesn’t try as hard the next time.
Think of your conscious mind’s job as that of effectively managing your unconscious mind. An effective manager knows that positive feedback and very constructive negative feedback are the things that work.
On the other hand, criticism, negativity, and browbeating just don’t work.
The same thing with your unconscious. So here’s a crucial end of the day process. I call it Completing the Day.
Completing the Day Process
- Just before your go to sleep recall all of your stated and unstated judgments of yourself during the day.
- Focus on the first and say to yourself, “I forgive myself for judging myself as (whatever the judgment was).”
- Do this for each of the judgments, big and small. For example: “I forgive myself for judging myself as overeating and exercising too little to lose weight.” For example: “I forgive myself for judging myself as irritable and hard to get along with.” For example: “I forgive myself for judging myself as judgmental and overly critical toward my spouse.”
- Recall all of your minor and major successes during the day.
- Focus on the first and say to yourself, “Congratulations for (whatever the success was).”
- Celebrate each of these successes, big and small.
For example: “Congratulations for remembering to water the plant today.”
For example: “Congratulations for doing a great job in writing the first newsletter today.”
For example: “Congratulations on cooking a great dinner that everyone enjoyed so much.”
Over time, you will note that you sleep better, you awaken in a more positive mood, and your successes increase while your judgments decrease.
However, if you notice yourself judging yourself at any time during the day, just immediately say, “I didn’t mean that. I am a wonderful person, and sometimes I learn by making mistakes.” That’s it.
If you do this consistently, you’ll feel better about yourself and your results will improve.
The results will be gradual but profound.”
Note: This lesson is from How to Get Lots of Money for Anything – Fast! by Stuart A. Lichtman.
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“If you do this consistently, you’ll feel better about yourself and your results will improve.”